Okay ladies it is time for a new discussion and I will start it off. I think the thing that attracted me to TTWD was the fact that I was really self destructive in my late teens and 20’s and I felt totally lost. I wanted so badly for someone to come along, take me by the hand and tell me it was not okay to be doing the things I was doing, to show me they cared by setting boundaries and limits in my life, and to have consequences if those things were broken. I was looking for someone to say “I care about you and you are worth it”. That never happened, but when I did get my life in order I vowed I never wanted anyone to experience feeling the way I did. That sense of being lost and like no one really cares is horrible and I was going to do what I could to help others.
I have consistently gravitated towards spanking, it has always been an interest of mine so I started researching what was then called Domestic Discipline and I also checked out the BDSM scene. I was very fortunate to meet a wonderful woman and her partner who had been in the “scene” for a number of years and they took me under their wing and taught me all they knew, most importantly the differences between BDSM and TTWD. This was back in the early 90’s when the internet was not so readily available. So when I felt confident in what I was doing I became a Top and started “mentoring” women (as it was called then) helping and guiding them to better themselves through TTWD. So that is what attracted me to TTWD. I am looking forward to reading what you ladies have to say.